CONTENTS
| 1: Beginnings |
6: Resilience |
| 2: Change |
7: Vulnerability |
| 3: Attention |
8: Unhappiness |
| 4: Emotion | 9: Success |
| 5: Happiness | 10: Endings |
OVERVIEW
This page is an ongoing work-in-progress where I link to a series of posts that will ultimately be compiled in a single volume. (Not all of this material will be incorporated, and significant gaps remain.) It also includes a history of my work on this topic.
The title refers to the course of the same name that I designed and launched at Stanford's Graduate School of Business in 2015, and the chapter headings correspond to each of the classes in the 10-week course.
A wide range of additional materials on these topics can be found in my course archive, including my Stanford syllabus, class slides, and links to related readings by other authors; links to the section in my archive for each class are included below.
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Neuroscience, Joyful Learning and the SCARF Model
How Great Coaches Ask, Listen, and Empathize
Scott Ginsberg on Asking (Better) Questions
Hammering Screws (Bad Coaching)
A Challenge to Leaders: Help Others Self-Coach
Coaching, Advice, and Feedback
Coaching Your Employees (HBR Webinar Video and Summary)
Taking the Plunge (Safety, Risk, Learning and Growth)
Experiential Learning Revisited
Class 1: BEGINNINGS in my Stanford course
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Building Blocks (A Tactical Approach to Change)
Voltaire and Patton on Perfection
Babies, Bathwater and Goal-Setting
Aim High...Enough (Self-Coaching and Goal-Setting)
Conversations with Ourselves (Self-Coaching and Self-Engagement)
Setbacks, Mindset and the Fundamental Attribution Error
Failing Forward (Learning from Mistakes)
The Dip: Seth Godin on Strategic Quitting
Conscious Competence in Practice
Think Small (The Value of Micro-Goals)
Three More Horsemen (How We Self-Sabotage)
Show Me Your Calendar and I'll Show You What You Value
Attitude, Behavior, Cognitive Dissonance and Authenticity
On Change: Inclination, Motivation, Action
Class 2: CHANGE in my Stanford course
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Don't Just Do Something, Sit There! (Mindfulness for Busy People)
Attention Surplus Disorder (Anxiety and Distraction)
Growth, Profitability, and Return on Attention
What Are You Paying Attention To?
You're Not Multi-Tasking, You're Half-Assing
The Marshmallow Test for Grownups
Rubbernecking (Stop Wasting Attention)
Why I (Keep Trying To) Meditate
Happy Workaholics Need Boundaries, Not Balance
White Bears and Car Crashes (Thinking About Thinking)
How to Think (More on Open Space and Deep Work)
Racing Up the Ladder of Inference
Class 3: ATTENTION in my Stanford course
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Antonio Damasio on Emotion and Reason
To Stay Focused, Manage Your Emotions
Perception and Understanding (Self-Coaching and Self-Awareness)
Emotional Mountaineering (The Three Tasks of Coaching)
We're Leaky (Emotional Signals and Cognitive Dissonance)
Tiny Gestures (and Emotional Bids)
Taking the Leap (Dealing with Risk and Uncertainty)
Leadership, Decision-Making and Emotion Management
Rest Isn't Always Fun (and Fun Isn't Always Restful)
Coaching and Emotion Management
The Importance of Yellow Lights
Seneca on the Importance of Rest and Relaxation
How to Fight a Fire (Self-Coaching in a Crisis)
How Leaders Create Safety (and Danger)
Learning to Yield (Navigating Tough Conversations)
Class 4: EMOTION in my Stanford course
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Understanding "The Pie Chart" in The How of Happiness
VIA Survey of Character Strengths
Catalysis (Self-Coaching and Self-Intervention)
The Big Picture (Self-Coaching, Values and Vision)
Sage Cohen and Peter Drucker on Rapture and Excellence
Let Your Freak Flag Fly: David Rendall on Uniqueness
Class 5: HAPPINESS in my Stanford course
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Ignoring Bandits and Building Resilience
Failing Forward (Learning from Mistakes)
How to Feed a Monster (Leading In Elite Organizations)
Surviving in a Toxic (or Merely Dysfunctional) Culture
Authentic Leadership and Your "Crucible Story"
Class 6: RESILIENCE in my Stanford course
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Brené Brown, Vulnerability, Empathy and Leadership
Conscious Competence in Practice
The Strategic Importance of Empathy
What I Learned in Touchy Feely (This Time)
Building the Emotional Intelligence of Groups
Class 7: VULNERABILITY in my Stanford course
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Pain, Suffering, and Hedonic Adaptation
The Layer Cake of Working Life
Marcus Aurelius, 3,000 Years and the Present Moment
Pema Chödrön on Being Thrown Out of the Nest
Pema Chödrön on Patience and Letting Go
Pema Chödrön and Mario Andretti on Control
Viktor Frankl on Love, Suffering and the Meaning of LIfe
Appreciating Life at Point Reyes
Surviving in a Toxic (or Merely Dysfunctional) Culture
You Make Me Feel... (On Language and Responsibility)
Keeping It Together When Things Fall Apart
Class 8: UNHAPPINESS in my Stanford course
"Success Kid" © Laney Griner, used with permission
Stop Trying to Be "Good Enough" by "Getting Better"
I Love Myself (Self-Coaching and Acceptance)
Living in the Tension (Self-Assessment and Self-Acceptance)
Peter Drucker on Excellence, Careers and Planning
Early Stage Survival and Later Stage Success
The Layer Cake of Working Life
Happy Workaholics Need Boundaries
Learning to Say "No" Is Part of Success
Alain de Botton on Status Anxiety
Realizing the Futility of Life
Class 9: SUCCESS in my Stanford course
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William Bridges on Transitions
Are You in the First Half...Or the Second Half?
A Checklist for Someone About to Take on a Tougher Job
The Art of Saying a Professional Goodbye
Spiral Learning and Flow States
On Growth and Renewal: An Update
Class 10: ENDINGS in my Stanford course
The chapters above parallel the sequence of topics in my Stanford course, but the organizing principle has evolved considerably over the years:
2009: My first Self-Coaching Guides on Communication, Leadership, Motivation, Change, Learning and Happiness.
- Operator's Manual, a way of thinking about these six topics.
2010: Self-Coaching Guides, One Year Later
2012: Self-Coaching, a revised approach addressing the following topics:
- Overview of Self-Coaching
- Self-Engagement
- Goal-Setting
- Self-Awareness
- Intervene and Act
- Self-Assessment
- Values and Vision
- Accepting Ourselves
2013: Self-Coaching: An Overview, a more concise restatement of my 2012 framework.
2014: I was given the opportunity to design a course on this topic at Stanford, and the process of designing that curriculum led me to the sequence of chapters above and the title The Art of Self-Coaching.
2015: The Art of Self-Coaching at Stanford GSB, a presentation of my initial curriculum to students who were considering taking the course.
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