For Further Reading (Ed Batista)

Reading

OVERVIEW

While every coaching relationship is unique, a number of themes come up repeatedly in my practice, and over the years I've written about many of them. After a coaching session I'll often refer a client or student to one of the posts below for further reading.

Because the primary purpose of this page is to help me access specific readings, it's generally alphabetized by title, but it also includes two sub-sections in which readings are grouped by topic area:

Coaching Your Employees
Feedback

I've also created stand-alone compilations of resources on other pages that cover areas I address frequently in my work:

20 Tools for Coaching and Teaching
A Power and Influence Primer
Coaching and Feedback Tools for Leaders
Interpersonal Dynamics (my former Stanford course archive)
Startup Leadership
The Art of Self-Coaching (my current Stanford course archive)

In addition to my own writing, I've included a list of other resources below that I've found particularly valuable, which includes several sub-sections in which readings are grouped by topic area:

Anxiety
Change
Choice and Constraints
Culture
Explanatory Style
Gender
Influence
Innovation
Intuition and Decision-Making
Mortality
Negotiation
OKRs
Psychological Safety
Relationships
Sales Leadership
Scaling Up
Sleep
Storytelling

Finally, while this page focuses primarily on posts and articles, I also maintain a reading list of books that have had an impact on my professional or personal development which is organized by topics such as Communication or Neuroscience & Psychology.

MY POSTS

A Checklist for Someone About to Take on a Tougher Job

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/01/new-post-at-hbr-a-checklist-for-someone-about-to-take-on-a-tougher-job.html

A Power and Influence Primer

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/08/a-power-and-influence-primer.html

Adult Thumb-Sucking

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/01/adult-thumb-sucking.html

Adventure, Tragedy, Comedy

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/07/adventure-tragedy-comedy.html

Alain de Botton on Status Anxiety

http://www.edbatista.com/2009/03/status-anxiety.html

Antonio Damasio on Emotion and Reason

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/07/antonio-damasio-on-emotion-and-reason.html

Are You in the First Half...Or the Second Half?

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/04/first-half-second-half.html

Babies, Bathwater and Goal-Setting

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/12/babies-bathwater-and-goal-setting.html

Aim High...Enough (Self-Coaching and Goal-Setting)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/07/aim-high-enough-self-coaching-and-goal-setting.html

Better Working Relationships

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/04/better-working-relationships.html

Blocking and Tackling (Fundamentals of Change)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/01/blocking-and-tackling.html

Bosses and Birthdays (The Importance of Small Talk)

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/07/bosses-and-birthdays-the-importance-of-small-talk.html

Brand You in the 21st Century

http://www.edbatista.com/2009/07/brand-you.html

Brass Rings and Railroad Tracks (On Self-Validation)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/06/self-validation.html

Brené Brown, Vulnerability, Empathy and Leadership

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/08/brene-brown-vulnerability-empathy-and-leadership.html

Building a Feedback-Rich Culture

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/12/new-post-at-hbr-building-a-feedback-rich-culture.html

Building a Feedback-Rich Culture from the Middle

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/04/building-a-feedback-rich-culture-from-the-middle.html

Can't Decide? Flip For It

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/03/cant-decide-flip-for-it.html

Caregiving and Stress Management

http://www.edbatista.com/2009/05/caregiving.html

Coaching, Advice and Feedback

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/10/coaching-advice-and-feedback.html

Coaching and Feedback Tools for Leaders

http://www.edbatista.com/coaching-and-feedback-tools-for-leaders.html

Coaching and the Cult of Done

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/06/coaching-and-the-cult-of-done.html

Coaching Your Employees

HBR Webinar Video

https://hbr.org/webinar/2014/09/coaching-your-employees

HBR Webinar Summary

http://www.edbatista.com/files/Coaching-Your-Employees-Ed-Batista-HBR-Webinar-Summary.pdf

HBR Webinar Slides

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/03/coaching-your-employees-an-hbr-webinar.html

HBR Guide to Coaching Employees

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/01/the-revised-hbr-guide-to-coaching-employees.html

Comfort with Discomfort

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/06/comfort-with-discomfort

Conflict Modes and Managerial Styles

http://www.edbatista.com/2007/01/conflict_modes_.html

Conscious Competence in Practice

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/02/conscious-competence-in-practice.html

Corn Mazes and Mental Models

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/12/corn-mazes-and-mental-models.html

Courage Isn't Confidence

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/09/courage-isnt-confidence.html

David Foster Wallace, "This Is Water"

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/05/david-foster-wallace-this-is-water.html

David Rock on Neuroscience, Leadership and the SCARF Model

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/03/scarf.html

Deference Kills Coaching

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/02/deference-kills-coaching.html

Derek Sivers on Leadership Lessons from Dancing Guy

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/03/dancing-guy.html

Developing Your Professional Vision

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/04/vision.html

Don't Build a Castle, Put Up 1,000 Tents

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/10/dont-build-a-castle-put-up-1000-tents.html

Don't Inflict Help, Provide It

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/09/my-first-post-at-hbr-dont-inflict-help-provide-it.html

Don't Just Do Something, Sit There! (Mindfulness for Busy People)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/dont-just-do-something-sit-there-mindfulness-for-busy-people.html

Don't Wait

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/05/dont-wait.html

Double-Loop Learning

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/05/double-loop.html

Doug Sundheim on Taking Smart Risks

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/01/doug-sundheim-on-taking-smart-risks.html

Dysfunction Isn't Heroism

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/10/dysfunction-isnt-heroism.html

Early Stage Survival and Later Stage Success

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/02/early-stage-survival-and-later-stage-success.html

Emotional Mountaineering (The Three Tasks of Coaching)

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/02/emotional-mountaineering-the-three-tasks-of-coaching.html

Erin Meyer on Culture and Communication

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/04/erin-meyer-on-culture-and-communication.html

One Reason Cross-Cultural Small Talk Is So Tricky (Erin Meyer)

https://hbr.org/2014/05/one-reason-cross-cultural-small-talk-is-so-tricky

Geert Hofstede on the Dimensions of Cultural Difference

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/02/hofstede.html

Experiential Learning Cycles

http://www.edbatista.com/2007/10/experiential.html

Experiential Learning Revisited

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/09/experiential-learning.html

Feedback

Make Getting Feedback Less Stressful

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/08/new-post-at-hbr-make-getting-feedback-less-stressful.html

HBR Webinar Video

https://hbr.org/webinar/2015/03/make-getting-feedback-less-stressful

HBR Webinar Summary

http://www.edbatista.com/files/Make-Getting-Feedback-Less-Stressful-Ed-Batista-Webinary-Summary.pdf

HBR Webinar Slides

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/02/making-feedback-less-stressful-hbr-webinar-slides.html

HBR Guide to Delivering Effective Feedback

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/05/the-harvardbiz-guide-to-delivering-effective-feedback.html

First Impressions

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/03/first-impressions.html

Five Levels of Communication

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/08/five-levels.html

Freedom From and Freedom To

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/03/freedom-from-and-freedom-to.html

Gary Klein on the Elements of Intention

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/03/intention.html

Get Moving! (Exercise for Busy People)

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/get-moving-exercise-for-busy-people.html

Glass, Metal, Rubber

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/04/glass-metal-rubber.html

Gratitude Checklist

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/01/gratitude-checklist.html

Growth, Profitability and Return on Attention

www.edbatista.com/2015/02/return-on-attention.html

Hammering Screws (Bad Coaching)

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/12/hammering-screws.html

Happy Workaholics Need Boundaries, Not Balance

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/12/new-post-at-hbr-happy-workaholics-need-boundaries-not-balance.html

How Great Coaches Ask, Listen and Empathize

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/02/new-post-at-hbr-how-great-coaches-ask-listen-and-empathize.html

How I Read Stoicism

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/06/how-i-read-stoicism.html

How Leaders Create Safety (and Danger)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/how-leaders-create-safety-and-danger.html

How Not to Fight with Your Spouse When You Get Home from Work

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/04/new-post-harvardbiz-how-to-not-fight-with-your-spouse-when-you-get-home-from-work.html

How to Feed a Monster (Leading in Elite Organizations)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/02/how-to-feed-a-monster-leading-in-elite-organizations.html

How to Fight a Fire (Self-Coaching in a Crisis)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/how-to-fight-a-fire-self-coaching-in-a-crisis.html

How to Find (and Choose) a Coach

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/07/how-to-find-and-choose-a-coach.html

How to Scale: Do Less, Lead More

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/11/how-to-scale-do-less-lead-more.html

How to Think (More on Open Space and Deep Work)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/10/how-to-think-more-on-open-space-and-deep-work.html

Howard Gardner on Influence

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/03/gardner.html

Huddle Up! (Building Group Cohesion)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/huddle-up-building-group-cohesion.html

Human Velcro (Hooks and Loops)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/01/velcro.html

Ignoring Bandits and Building Resilience

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/08/ignoring-bandits-and-building-resilience.html

Importance vs. Urgency

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/importance-vs-urgency.html

In Defense of Normal (A Coaching Manifesto)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/02/in-defense-of-normal.html

Interpersonal Power

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/02/power.html

Investments, Not Indulgences

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/05/investments-not-indulgences.html

Investment vs. Attachment

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/01/investment-vs-attachment.html

Joel Peterson on Organizational Culture

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/04/joel-peterson.html

Joel Peterson's Last Lecture, 15 Years Later

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/03/joel-petersons-last-lecture-15-years-later.html

John Gottman on Successful Relationships

http://www.edbatista.com/2007/01/john_gottman_on.html

Video: Making Relationships Work, Part 1 (John Gottman)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLXX8wzvT7c&t=4s

Jonathan Knee on Sales, Analysis and Operations

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/04/jonathan-knee-o.html

Karl Weick on Renewal

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/03/karl-weick-on-renewal.html

Leading in Four Dimensions

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/10/leading-in-four-dimensions.html

Leading is an Act of Love

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/01/leading-is-an-act-of-love.html

Leadership and Authenticity

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/06/leadership-and-authenticity.html

Leadership and the Double Bind

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/04/leadership-and-the-double-bind.html

Leadership as a Performing Art

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/04/leadership-as-a-performing-art.html

Leadership as Professional Practice

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/06/leadership-as-professional-practice.html

Leadership, Decision-Making and Emotion Management

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/02/leadership-decision-making-and-emotion-management.html

Learning How to Learn

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/07/learning-how-to-learn.html

Learning to Say "No" Is Part of Success

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/11/new-post-at-hbr-learning-to-say-no-is-part-of-success.html

Learning to Yield (Navigating Tough Conversations)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/learning-to-yield-navigating-tough-conversations.html

Let Your Freak Flag Fly: David Rendall on Uniqueness

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/05/let-your-freak.html

List-Price vs. Haggling (Culture, Compensation and Negotiation)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/08/list-price-vs-haggling-culture-compensation-and-negotiation.html

Low-Carb High-Fat (LCHF) Resources

http://www.edbatista.com/low-carb-high-fat-lchf-resources.html

Lyubomirsky's Person-Activity Fit Diagnostic

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/12/lyubomirskys-person-activity-fit-diagnostic.html

Make More Skateboards

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/03/make-more-skateboards.html

Marcus Aurelius, 3,000 Years, and the Present Moment

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/08/marcus-aurelius.html

McClelland and Burnham on Power and Management

http://www.edbatista.com/2006/10/mcclelland_and_.html

Neuroscience, Joyful Learning and the SCARF Model

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/05/learning.html

On Firing A Senior Team Member

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/12/on-firing-a-senior-team-member.html

On the Shortness of Life

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/02/on-the-shortness-of-life.html

Open Space, Deep Work and Self-Care

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/open-space-deep-work-and-self-care.html

Pain, Suffering and Hedonic Adaptation

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/10/pain-suffering-and-hedonic-adaptation.html

Pasta Shapes (Stupid Fights and How to Stop Them)

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/pasta-shapes-stupid-fights-and-how-to-stop-them.html

Pema Chödrön on Being Thrown Out of the Nest

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/04/pema-chodron-on-being-thrown-out-of-the-nest.html

Peter Drucker on Excellence, Careers and Planning

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/03/drucker.html

Phil Stutz on Taking Risks

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/09/phil-stutz-on-taking-risks.html

Pirates in the Navy

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/02/pirates-in-the-navy.html

Racing Up the Ladder of Inference

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/02/racing-up-the-ladder-of-inference.html

Risk Management (The Importance of Speaking Up)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/06/risk-management-the-importance-of-speaking-up.html

Safety, Trust, Intimacy

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/03/safety.html

Scott Ginsberg on Asking (Better) Questions

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/04/questions.html

Seeing What's Not There (The Importance of Missing Data)

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/seeing-whats-not-there-the-importance-of-missing-data.html

Self-Coaching Is SOCIAL

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/05/self-coaching-is-social.html

Self-Monitoring

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/07/self-monitoring.html

Self-Monitoring and Authenticity

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/07/self-monitoring-and-authenticity.html

Seneca on the Importance of Rest and Relaxation

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/10/seneca-on-the-importance-of-rest-and-relaxation.html

Setting the Table (Difficult Conversations)

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/01/setting-the-table-difficult-conversations-part-1.html

Show Me Your Calendar and I'll Show You What You Value

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/05/show-me-your-calendar-and-ill-show-you-what-you-value.html

Spiral Learning and Flow States

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/03/spiral-learning-and-flow-states.html

Stagefright and Public Speaking

http://www.edbatista.com/2006/08/stagefright_and.html

Startups as Human Systems

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/12/startups-as-human-systems.html

Startup Leadership

http://www.edbatista.com/startup-leadership.html

Startup Leadership 1: Are We Video-Gaming or Ditch-Digging?

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/07/startup-leadership-are-we-video-gaming-or-ditch-digging.html

Startup Leadership 2: Are We Rowing or Rafting?

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/03/startup-leadership-are-we-rowing-or-rafting.html

Startup Leadership 3: A Greater Us

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/07/startup-leadership-a-greater-us.html

Stop Providing Too Much Information

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/05/learning.html

Stop Trying to Be "Good Enough" by "Getting Better"

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/stop-trying-to-be-good-enough-by-getting-better.html

Stop Worrying About Making the Right Decision

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/11/new-post-at-hbr-stop-worrying-about-making-the-right-decision.html

Suspension of Belief

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/02/suspension-of-belief.html

Surviving in a Toxic (or Merely Dysfunctional) Culture

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/02/surviving-in-a-toxic-or-merely-dysfunctional-culture.html

Symptoms of Group Strength

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/03/symptoms-of-group-strength.html

Taking the Leap (Dealing with Risk and Uncertainty)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/02/taking-the-leap-dealing-with-risk-and-uncertainty.html

Taking the Plunge (Safety, Risk, Learning, and Growth)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/02/safety-risk-learning-and-growth.html

Talking About Feelings

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/07/talking-about-feelings.html

The Accumulation of Cultural Debt

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/12/the-accumulation-of-cultural-debt.html

The Air Mask Principle

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/10/the-air-mask-principle.html

The Art of Saying a Professional Goodbye

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/05/new-post-at-hbr-the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye.html

The Big Picture (Self-Coaching, Values and Vision)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/07/the-big-picture-self-coaching-values-and-vision.html

The Blue Problem (Communication and Power)

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/08/the-blue-problem-communication-and-power.html

The Cognitive Dissonance of the CEO

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/07/the-cognitive-dissonance-of-the-ceo.html

The Communication Funnel

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/09/the-communication-funnel.html

The Difficulty of Empathizing Up

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/03/the-difficulty-of-empathizing-up.html

The Dip: Seth Godin on Strategic Quitting

http://www.edbatista.com/2007/07/the-dip.html

The Friendship of Wolves

http://www.edbatista.com/2018/06/the-friendship-of-wolves.html

The Importance of Slowing Down

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/the-importance-of-slowing-down.html

The Importance of Yellow Lights

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/04/the-importance-of-yellow-lights.html

The Inner Game of Work: Who Are You Working For?

http://www.edbatista.com/2006/09/the_inner_game_.html

The Layer Cake of Working Life

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/08/the-layer-cake-of-working-life.html

The Map Is Not the Territory

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/the-map-is-not-the-territory.html

The Marshmallow Test for Grownups

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/09/new-post-at-hbr-the-marshmallow-test-for-grownups.html

The Most Productive People Know Who to Ignore

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/08/new-post-at-hbr-the-most-productive-people-know-who-to-ignore.html

The Power of AND

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/10/the-power-of-and.html

The Problem with Anonymous Feedback

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/03/the-problem-with-anonymous-feedback.html

The Problem with Positive Feedback

http://www.edbatista.com/2007/02/the_problem_wit.html

The Six Layers of Knowledge and Better Conversations

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/05/the-six-layers-of-knowledge-and-better-conversations.html

The Toyota Production System Works for Relationships, Too

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/04/the-toyota-production-system-works-for-relationships-too.html

The Trium Group on Responsibility

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/08/trium.html

The Value of a Good Fight

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/the-value-of-a-good-fight.html

The Value of Journal Writing

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/03/journal.html

The way you are now is the way you are loved

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/06/love.html

The Work and The Job

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/05/the-work-and-the-job.html

Think Small (The Value of Micro-Goals)

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/03/think-small-the-value-of-micro-goals.html

Three More Horsemen (How We Self-Sabotage)

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/three-more-horsemen-how-we-self-sabotage.html

Three Paradoxes (Another Coaching Manifesto)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/three-paradoxes-another-coaching-manifesto.html

Time Horizons

http://www.edbatista.com/2009/07/horizons.html

Tiny Gestures (and Emotional Bids)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/02/tiny-gestures-and-emotional-bids.html

Tips on Coaching Someone Remotely

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/03/new-post-at-hbr-tips-for-coaching-someone-remotely.html

To Stay Focused, Manage Your Emotions

http://www.edbatista.com/2015/02/new-post-at-hbr-to-stay-focused-manage-your-emotions.html

Trust is an Emotion

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/08/trust-is-an-emotion.html

Two Sides of Trust

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/03/two-sides-of-trust.html

Underdoing It and Overdoing It (Assertiveness Over Time)

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/11/underdoing-it-and-overdoing-it-assertiveness-over-time.html

Understanding "The Pie Chart" in The How of Happiness

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/12/understanding-the-pie-chart-in-the-how-of-happiness.html

VIA Survey of Character Strengths

http://www.edbatista.com/via-survey-of-character-strengths.html

Viktor Frankl on Love, Suffering and the Meaning of Life

http://www.edbatista.com/2010/04/life.html

Voltaire and Patton on Perfection

http://www.edbatista.com/2009/04/voltaire-patton-perfection.html

Watch That Next Step (CEO Problems)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/08/watch-that-next-step-ceo-problems.html

We're Leaky (Emotional Signals and Cognitive Dissonance)

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/08/were-leaky-emotional-signals-and-cognitive-dissonance.html

What Do Great Leaders Do?

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/what-do-great-leaders-do.html

What I Learned in the Hospital this Weekend

www.edbatista.com/2017/04/what-i-learned-in-the-hospital-this-weekend.html

What Is Winning?

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/what-is-winning.html

What Took You So Long? by Sheldon Kopp

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/08/what-took-you-so-long-by-sheldon-kopp.html

White Bears and Car Crashes (Thinking About Thinking)

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/01/white-bears-and-car-crashes-thinking-about-thinking.html

Why Change Is Hard

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/12/why-change-is-hard.html

William Bridges on Transitions

http://www.edbatista.com/2008/08/transitions.html

William James on Habit

http://www.edbatista.com/2011/07/william-james-on-habit.html

http://www.foggmethod.com/

http://www.behaviormodel.org/

"Work Hard or Work Smart?" Is the Wrong Question

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/06/work-hard-or-work-smart-is-the-wrong-question.html

Accountability and Empathy

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/06/work-hard-or-work-smart-is-the-wrong-question.html#accountability-and-empathy

You Make Me Feel... (On Language and Responsibility)

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/you-make-me-feel-on-language-and-responsibility.html

You're Not Multi-Tasking, You're Half-Assing

http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/youre-not-multi-tasking-youre-half-assing.html

Zinedane Zidane and Authenticity

http://www.edbatista.com/2006/09/zinedine_zidane.html

OTHER RESOURCES

A Survival Guide for Leaders (Ron Heifetz and Marty Linsky)

https://hbr.org/2002/06/a-survival-guide-for-leaders

Adam Grant on Networking Is (Unintentionally) Misleading (Jeff Pfeffer)

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/adam-grant-networking-unintentionally-misleading-jeffrey-pfeffer/

Anxiety

When a Stress Expert Battles Mental Illness (Brad Stulberg)

https://www.outsideonline.com/2279856/anxiety-cant-be-trained-away

Dealing With Anxiety: Exploring the Patterns that Fuel the Anxious Process (Sarah Sarkis)

https://www.heysigmund.com/dealing-with-anxiety-the-patterns-that-fuel-anxiety/

Why Anxiety Is So Persuasive--and Pervasive (Sharon Salzberg)

https://onbeing.org/blog/sharon-salzberg-why-anxiety-is-so-persuasive-and-pervasive/

The Worry Cure (Robert Leahy)

http://www.amazon.com/The-Worry-Cure-Seven-Stopping/dp/1400097665

Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being (Linda Graham)

https://www.amazon.com/Bouncing-Back-Rewiring-Resilience-Well-Being/dp/1608681297

Bad Is Stronger Than Good [PDF] (Roy Baumeister, Ellen Bratslavsky, Catrin Finkenauer and Kathleen Vohs)

A series of excerpts

https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/973401258542313472.html

Becoming Attached [PDF] (Robert Karen)

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1990/02/becoming-attached/308966/

Building the Civilized Workplace (Bob Sutton)

https://www.mckinsey.com/business-functions/organization/our-insights/building-the-civilized-workplace

The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace (Bob Sutton)

https://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Rule-Civilized-Workplace-Surviving/dp/1600245854

Building The Emotional Intelligence of Groups (Vanessa Urch Druskat and Steven Wolff)

https://hbr.org/2001/03/building-the-emotional-intelligence-of-groups

Building Your Company's Vision [$] (Jim Collins and Jerry Porras)

https://hbr.org/1996/09/building-your-companys-vision

Buy Experiences, Not Things (James Hamblin)

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2014/10/buy-experiences/381132/

Anticipating Experience-Based Purchases More Enjoyable Than Material Ones

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/anticipating-experience-based-purchases-more-enjoyable-than-material-ones.html

Change

How Your Identity Changes When You Change Jobs (Herminia Ibarra interviewed by Sarah Green Carmichael)

https://hbr.org/ideacast/2018/11/how-your-identity-changes-when-you-change-jobs

Choice and Constraints

More Isn't Always Better (Barry Schwartz)

https://hbr.org/2006/06/more-isnt-always-better

Is the famous 'paradox of choice' a myth? (Barry Schwartz)

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/economy/is-the-famous-paradox-of-choic

The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (Greg McKeown)

https://hbr.org/2012/08/the-disciplined-pursuit-of-less

Connect, Then Lead (Amy Cuddy, Matthew Kohut and John Neffinger)

https://hbr.org/2013/07/connect-then-lead

Crucibles of Leadership (Warren Bennis and Robert Thomas)

https://hbr.org/2002/09/crucibles-of-leadership

Culture

10 Principles of Organizational Culture (Jon Katzenbach, Carolin Oelschlegel and James Thomas)

https://www.strategy-business.com/feature/10-Principles-of-Organizational-Culture

Double Loop Learning in Organizations (Chris Argyris)

https://hbr.org/1977/09/double-loop-learning-in-organizations

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most (Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen)

Chapter 5: Have Your Feelings or They Will Have You

Explanatory Style

What Are Attributional and Explanatory Styles in Psychology? (Elaine Houston, Positive Psychology, 2019)

https://positivepsychology.com/explanatory-styles-optimism/

Learned Helplessness: Seligman's Theory of Depression (+ Cure) (Courtney Ackerman, Positive Psychology, 2018)

https://positivepsychology.com/learned-helplessness-seligman-theory-depression-cure/

Explanatory Styles and Their Role in Stress (Elizabeth Scott, VeryWellMind, 2018)

https://www.verywellmind.com/about-explanatory-styles-3145110

Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives (Maria Popova)

https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/01/29/carol-dweck-mindset/

Gender

Gender, Confidence and Perception

The Confidence Gap (Katty Kay and Claire Shipman)

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/05/the-confidence-gap/359815/

Is the Confidence Gap Between Men and Women a Myth? (Laura Guillen)

https://hbr.org/2018/03/is-the-confidence-gap-between-men-and-women-a-myth

The Gender Gap in Feedback and Self-Perception (Margarita Mayo)

https://hbr.org/2016/08/the-gender-gap-in-feedback-and-self-perception

Can Women be Strong Leaders Without Being Labeled "Bossy?" (Bill Snyder, on research by Larissa Tiedens)

https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/can-women-be-strong-leaders-without-being-labeled-bossy

Women Need to Realize Work Isn't School (Whitney Johnson and Tara Mohr, Harvard Business Review)

https://hbr.org/2013/01/women-need-to-realize-work-isnt-schol

- People can find the piece above frustrating because it doesn't address sexism and gender bias, and yet when we can't immediately make structural changes I think it offers a useful roadmap to potential action.

Gender and Negotiation

There's an ample body of research that attributes compensation gaps to women's negotiation styles, e.g.:

Women and Negotiation: Narrowing the Gender Gap in Negotiation (Katie Shonk, Harvard Law Program on Negotiation)

https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/business-negotiations/women-and-negotiation-narrowing-the-gender-gap/

But there's also research that urges us to view compensation gaps as a by-product of institutional secrecy rather than women's inadequacy as negotiators, e.g.:

Gender Differences in Negotiation and Policy for Improvement (Maria Recalde & Lise Vesterlund, NBER)

https://www.nber.org/papers/w28183

The paper above is discussed in the article below:

Women’s Negotiating Style is Not Responsible for the Gender Pay Gap (Arianne Cohen, Rate.com)

https://www.rate.com/research/news/women-negotiating-work

Gender and Masculinity

Who Needs Men? (Barbara Ehrenreich and Lionel Tiger, Harper's Magazine) [PDF]

Masculinity as Homophobia: Fear, Shame and Silence in the Construction of Gender Identity (Michael Kimmel) [PDF]

The Study of Man (Or Males) (Charles McGrath)

https://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/09/education/09men-t.html

How Being a Workaholic Differs from Working Long Hours--and Why That Matters for Your Health (Lieke ten Brummelhuis and Nancy Rothbard)

https://hbr.org/2018/03/how-being-a-workaholic-differs-from-working-long-hours-and-why-that-matters-for-your-health

How I Built My Coaching Practice (Anamaria Nino-Murcia)

https://medium.com/@footholdcoach/how-i-built-my-coaching-practice-cc99f1aeebfc

How to Be Good (Nick Hornby)

https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Good-Nick-Hornby/dp/1573229326

How to Express Empathy--Avoid the Traps! (Michael Sahota)

http://agilitrix.com/2013/01/how-to-express-empathy-avoid-the-traps/

If You Want Something, Ask For It (Marguerite Rigoglioso, on research by Frank Flynn on asking for help)

https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/francis-flynn-if-you-want-something-ask-it

Influence

Principles of Persuasion (Robert Cialdini)

https://www.influenceatwork.com/6-principles-of-persuasion/

Harnessing the Science of Persuasion [$] (Robert Cialdini)

https://hbr.org/2001/10/harnessing-the-science-of-persuasion

The Language of Persuasion (Robert Cialdini)

https://hbr.org/2008/02/the-language-of-persuasion.html

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion (Robert Cialdini)

https://www.amazon.com/Influence-Psychology-Persuasion-Robert-Cialdini/dp/006124189X

The Uses (and Abuses) of Influence (Robert Cialdini)

https://hbr.org/2013/07/the-uses-and-abuses-of-influence

Yes! 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Persuasive (Noah Goldstein, Steve Martin and Robert Cialdini

https://www.amazon.com/Yes-Scientifically-Proven-Ways-Persuasive/dp/1416576142

A Power and Influence Primer

http://www.edbatista.com/2014/08/a-power-and-influence-primer.html

Innovation

Where Good Ideas Come From (Steven Johnson, TED 2010)

https://www.ted.com/talks/steven_johnson_where_good_ideas_come_from/

How Innovation Works (Matt Ridley & Naval Ravikant, 2020)

https://nav.al/matt-ridley

Slow Ideas (Atul Gawande, The New Yorker, 2013)

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/07/29/slow-ideas

Intuition and Decision-Making

Strategic decisions: When can you trust your gut? (Interview with Daniel Kahneman and Gary Klein)

https://www.mckinsey.com/business-functions/strategy-and-corporate-finance/our-insights/strategic-decisions-when-can-you-trust-your-gut

Conditions for Intuitive Expertise (Daniel Kahneman and Gary Klein)

https://edbatista.typepad.com/files/conditions-for-intuitive-expertise-kahneman-klein.pdf

The Ultimate Guide to Making Smart Decisions (Shane Parrish)

https://fs.blog/smart-decisions/

Mental Models: The Best Way to Make Intelligent Decisions (Shane Parrish)

https://fs.blog/mental-models/

Creating a Decision Journal (Shane Parrish)

https://fs.blog/2014/02/decision-journal/

Decision Journal (Shane Parrish)

https://www.dejournal.co/

Michael Mauboussin: Two Tips to Improve The Quality of Your Decisions (Shane Parrish)

https://fs.blog/2012/09/how-to-improve-the-quality-of-our-decision-making/

Don't Overthink It (Agnes Callard, Boston Review, 2019)

http://bostonreview.net/philosophy-religion/agnes-callard-dont-overthink-it

Learned Helplessness (Courtney Ackerman)

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/learned-helplessness/

Lessons from Meditating with the Dalai Lama (Sanjay Gupta)

https://www.cnn.com/2017/02/15/health/sanjay-gupta-dalai-lama-meditation/index.html

Managing Authenticity (Rob Goffee and Gareth Jones)

https://hbr.org/2005/12/managing-authenticity-the-paradox-of-great-leadership

Managing with the Brain in Mind (David Rock)

https://www.strategy-business.com/article/09306

Meaning Is Healthier Than Happiness (Emily Esfahani Smith)

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/08/meaning-is-healthier-than-happiness/278250/

Mortality

BOOKS AND ESSAYS

The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life (Katy Butler, 2019)

https://www.amazon.com/Art-Dying-Well-Practical-Guide/dp/1501135317/

Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End (Atul Gawande)

https://www.amazon.com/Being-Mortal-Medicine-What-Matters/dp/1250081246

The Denial of Death (Ernest Becker)

https://www.amazon.com/Denial-Death-Ernest-Becker/dp/0684832402

Dying: A Memoir (Cory Taylor)

https://www.amazon.com/Dying-Memoir-Cory-Taylor/dp/1941040705

Gratitude (Oliver Sacks, 2015)

https://www.amazon.com/Gratitude-Oliver-Sacks/dp/0451492935/

How to prepare yourself for a good end of life (Katy Butler, San Francisco Chronicle, 2019

https://www.sfchronicle.com/opinion/openforum/article/How-to-prepare-yourself-for-the-good-end-of-life-13622599.php

Mortality (Christopher Hitchens)

https://www.amazon.com/Mortality-Christopher-Hitchens/dp/1455502766

The Red Hand Files, Issue #6 (Nick Cave)

https://www.theredhandfiles.com/communication-dream-feeling/

Sheryl Sandberg, UC Berkeley Commencement (2016)

https://venturebeat.com/2016/05/15/facebooks-sheryl-sandberg-speaks-publicly-about-husbands-death-for-first-time/

The Violet Hour: Great Writers at the End (Katie Roiphe)

https://www.amazon.com/Violet-Hour-Great-Writers-End/dp/0385343590

The Year of Magical Thinking (Joan Didion)

https://www.amazon.com/Year-Magical-Thinking-Joan-Didion/dp/1400078431

When Breath Becomes Air (Paul Kalanithi)

https://www.amazon.com/When-Breath-Becomes-Paul-Kalanithi/dp/081298840X

Why Mortality Makes Us Free (Martin Hägglund, The New York Times, 2019)

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/11/opinion/why-mortality-makes-us-free.html

POETRY

"Aubade" (Philip Larkin)

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48422/aubade-56d229a6e2f07

"For the Anniversary of My Death" (W.S. Merwin)

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43118/for-the-anniversary-of-my-death

RELATED POSTS OF MINE

Gualala (On Mortality and Gratitude)

https://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/gualala-on-mortality-and-gratitude.html

Marcus Aurelius, 3,000 Years, and the Present Moment

http://www.edbatista.com/2012/08/marcus-aurelius.html

On the Shortness of Life

http://www.edbatista.com/2013/02/on-the-shortness-of-life.html

Nancy Duarte on Presenting and Storytelling

https://hbr.org/2012/10/structure-your-presentation-li

Illuminate: https://www.amazon.com/Nancy-Duarte/e/B002BMAA0K/

TED talk on what makes an effective TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/nancy_duarte_the_secret_structure_of_great_talks

Negotiation

Emotion and the Art of Negotiation (Alison Wood Brooks)

https://hbr.org/2015/12/emotion-and-the-art-of-negotiation

How to Negotiate Better (Jeff Weiss, interviewed by Sarah Green)

https://hbr.org/ideacast/2015/01/how-to-negotiate-better.html

How to Negotiate with Someone More Powerful Than You (Carolyn O'Hara)

https://hbr.org/2014/06/how-to-negotiate-with-someone-more-powerful-than-you

Never Have an Unproductive Day Again with This Simple Hack (Nir Eyal and James Clear)

https://heleo.com/conversation-never-have-an-unproductive-day-again-with-this-simple-hack/15013/

OKRs

The Art of the OKR (Christina Wodtke, ElegantHack, 2014)

http://eleganthack.com/the-art-of-the-okr/

Radical Focus (Christina Wodtke, 2015)

https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Focus-Achieving-Important-Objectives/dp/0996006052/

Introduction to OKRs (Christina Wodtke, 2016)

https://www.oreilly.com/business/free/files/introduction-to-okrs.pdf

Peak Performance (Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/09/peak-performance.html

Power: Why Some People Have It and Others Don't (Jeff Pfeffer)

https://www.amazon.com/Power-Some-People-Have-Others/dp/0061789089

Psychological Safety

Make Your Employees Feel Psychologically Safe (Martha Lagace interviewing Amy Edmondson, HBS Working Knowledge, 2018)

https://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/make-your-employees-psychologically-safe

(The best introduction to Edmondson's work.)

How Fearless Organizations Succeed (Amy Edmondson, strategy+business, 2018)

https://www.strategy-business.com/article/How-Fearless-Organizations-Succeed?gko=fdfc6

(A deeper dive, excerpted from her book.)

How Leaders Create Safety (and Danger)

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/01/how-leaders-create-safety-and-danger.html

Radical Acceptance (Tara Brach)

https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Acceptance-Embracing-Heart-Buddha/dp/0553380990

Relationships

John Gottman on Successful Relationships

http://www.edbatista.com/2007/01/john_gottman_on.html

The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling (Ellie Lisitsa)

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes (Ellie Lisitsa)

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/

4 Marriage Myths That Cause Divorce (Kyle Benson)

https://www.gottman.com/blog/4-marriage-myths-cause-divorce/

Video: Making Relationships Work, Part 1 (John Gottman)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLXX8wzvT7c&t=4s

Self-Compassion (Kristin Neff)

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/05/why-self-compassion-works-better-than-self-esteem/481473/

http://self-compassion.org/

Self-Talk

How to Talk Yourself Into Better Endurance (Alex Hutchinson)

https://www.outsideonline.com/2399632/self-talk-study

Sales Leadership

The best salespeople don't make the best managers (Alex Verkhivker)

http://review.chicagobooth.edu/strategy/2017/article/best-salespeople-don-t-make-best-managers

Why great salespeople make terrible managers (Steli Efti)

https://blog.close.com/great-salespeople-bad-managers

Scaling Up

Eight Essentials for Scaling up Without Screwing Up (Bob Sutton)

https://hbr.org/2014/02/eight-essentials-for-scaling-up-without-screwing-up

Bad to Great: The Path to Scaling Up Excellence (Bob Sutton and Huggy Rao)

http://www.mckinsey.com/business-functions/organization/our-insights/bad-to-great-the-path-to-scaling-up-excellence

How Do You Scale Excellence? (Interview with Bob Sutton and Huggy Rao)

https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/hayagreeva-rao-robert-sutton-how-do-you-scale-excellence

Scaling Up Excellence (Bob Sutton and Huggy Rao)

https://www.amazon.com/Scaling-Up-Excellence-Getting-Settling/dp/0385347022

How to Scale: Do Less, Lead More

http://www.edbatista.com/2017/11/how-to-scale-do-less-lead-more.html

Shop Class As Soulcraft (Matthew Crawford)

2006 essay in The New Atlantis

2009 book

Sleep

Great Leaders Sleep Well--Why Rest is Critical For Success (Ronni Hendel-Giller)

https://conversations.actionable.co/thoughts/2018/03/leaders-sleep-well/

There's a Proven Link Between Effective Leadership and Getting Enough Sleep (Nick van Dam and Els van der Helm)

https://hbr.org/2016/02/theres-a-proven-link-between-effective-leadership-and-getting-enough-sleep

Relax, Turn Off Your Phone, and Go To Sleep (Larry Rosen)

https://hbr.org/2015/08/research-shows-how-anxiety-and-technology-are-affecting-our-sleep

You Can't Do Your Job if You Don't Sleep (Tony Schwartz)

https://hbr.org/2012/07/the-secret-to-high-performance

Sleep Is More Important Than Food (Tony Schwartz)

https://hbr.org/2011/03/sleep-is-more-important-than-f

Sleep-Deprived Leaders are Less Inspiring (Christopher Barnes)

https://hbr.org/2016/06/research-sleep-deprived-leaders-are-less-inspiring

Senior Leaders Get More Sleep Than Anyone Else (Rasmus Hougaard & Jacqueline Carter)

https://hbr.org/2018/02/senior-executives-get-more-sleep-than-everyone-else

Software Estimation in the Fractal Dimension (Stuart Rimell)

https://codeburst.io/software-estimation-in-the-fractal-dimension-914569e2ccb9

Storytelling

Nancy Duarte

Structure Your Presentation Like a Story

The Secret Structure of Great Talks [18 min video]

slide:ology: The Art and Science of Creating Great Presentations

Resonate: Present Visual Stories That Transform Audiences

Illuminate: Ignite Change Through Speeches, Stories, Ceremonies, and Symbols (with Patti Sanchez)

Thaler Pekar & Partners

Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well (Douglas Patton and Sheila Heen)

Chapter 1: Three Triggers That Block Feedback

The 30 second habit with a lifelong impact (Robyn Scott, 2016)

https://medium.com/swlh/the-30-second-habit-with-a-lifelong-impact-2c3f948ead98

The Authenticity Paradox (Herminia Ibarra)

https://hbr.org/2015/01/the-authenticity-paradox

The biggest threat facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness. (Billy Baker)

https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2017/03/09/the-biggest-threat-facing-middle-age-men-isn-smoking-obesity-loneliness/k6saC9FnnHQCUbf5mJ8okL/story.html

The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (Greg McKeown)

https://hbr.org/2012/08/the-disciplined-pursuit-of-less

The Leader's Calendar

How CEOs Manage Time (Michael Porter and Nitin Nohria

https://hbr.org/2018/07/the-leaders-calendar#how-ceos-manage-time

What Do CEOs Actually Do? (Michael Porter and Nitin Nohria)

https://hbr.org/2018/07/the-leaders-calendar#what-do-ceos-actually-do

One CEO's Approach to Managing His Calendar (Daniel McGinn and Sarah Higgins)

The Midlife Crisis (Kieran Setiya)

https://quod.lib.umich.edu/p/phimp/3521354.0014.031/1/--midlife-crisis?

https://quod.lib.umich.edu/cgi/p/pod/dod-idx/midlife-crisis.pdf?c=phimp;idno=3521354.0014.031;format=pdf

Midlife: A Philosophical Guide (Kieran Setiya)

https://www.amazon.com/Midlife-Philosophical-Guide-Kieran-Setiya/dp/0691173931

The Myth of Sisyphus [PDF, pages 119-123] (Albert Camus)

The Neuroscience of Regret (Melanie Greenberg)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201206/the-neuroscience-regret

Things I wish I knew as a first-time manager (Dan Slate)

https://magazine.vunela.com/things-i-wish-i-knew-as-a-first-time-manager-58ec0ef141bc

Three Stages of Expertise (Simon Wardley)

http://blog.gardeviance.org/2008/04/three-stages-of-expertise.html

To fight the winter blues, try a dose of nature (Florence Williams)

https://www.wsj.com/articles/to-fight-the-winter-blues-try-a-dose-of-nature-1485540954

Touchy Feely NBA Teams More Likely to Win (Stephanie Pappas)

https://www.livescience.com/11091-touchy-feely-nba-teams-win.html

Walking lifts your mood, even when you don't expect it to (Christian Jarrett)

https://digest.bps.org.uk/2016/10/21/walking-lifts-your-mood-even-when-you-dont-expect-it-to/

What Having a "Growth Mindset" Actually Means (Carol Dweck)

https://hbr.org/2016/01/what-having-a-growth-mindset-actually-means

What Fitbit's 6 billion nights of sleep data reveals about us (David Pogue)

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/exclusive-fitbits-6-billion-nights-sleep-data-reveals-us-110058417.html

What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness (Robert Waldinger)

https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness/transcript?language=en

What Makes a Leader? (Daniel Goleman)

https://hbr.org/2004/01/what-makes-a-leader

What Makes an Effective Executive (Peter Drucker)

https://hbr.org/2004/06/what-makes-an-effective-executive

This article is the preface to the 2004 edition of the 1967 book:

The Effective Executive: The Definitive Guide to Getting the Right Things Done (Peter Drucker)

https://www.amazon.com/Effective-Executive-Definitive-Harperbusiness-Essentials/dp/0060833459

A series of excerpts from the book:

Part 1: https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/974111270390530048.html?refreshed=yes

Part 2: https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/974510140094169088.html?refreshed=yes

Part 3: https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/974517753540300800.html?refreshed=yes

When a Stress Expert Battles Mental Illness (Brad Stulberg)

https://www.outsideonline.com/2279856/anxiety-cant-be-trained-away

When you don’t like what you feel: Experiential avoidance, mindfulness
and meta-emotion in emotion regulation (Horst Mitmansgruber, Thomas N. Beck, Stefan Höfer and Gerhard Schüßler)

Personality and Individual Differences 46 (2009) 448–453

Why It Pays to Be a Jerk (Jerry Useem)

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/06/why-it-pays-to-be-a-jerk/392066/

Why Should Anyone Be Led By You? (Rob Goffee and Gareth Jones)

https://hbr.org/2000/09/why-should-anyone-be-led-by-you

Also: http://www.edbatista.com/2016/12/why-should-anyone-be-led-by-you.html

Why You Should Make Time for Self-Reflection (Even If You Hate Doing It) (Jennifer Porter)

https://hbr.org/2017/03/why-you-should-make-time-for-self-reflection-even-if-you-hate-doing-it

Working the Weekly 1:1 (Christina Wodtke)

https://medium.com/@cwodtke/working-the-weekly-1-1-b80bcf3fbe5f

You Took an Emotional Risk, Now What? (Elizabeth Bernstein)

https://www.wsj.com/articles/you-took-an-emotional-risk-now-what-1478536377